The stages outlined below describe common childhood mindsets that persist into adulthood when emotional development is incomplete. Each stage reflects a particular relationship to responsibility, power, and hierarchy. By recognizing where we are stuck, we can stop reenacting old survival roles and begin the real work of growing up—taking full responsibility for our inner world and allowing life to meet us with support, clarity, and flow rather than resistance. Infant: “I Can’

From a systemic perspective, life operates according to natural principles. When we are in the right place—emotionally, relationally, and hierarchically—resources, opportunities, and support flow to us effortlessly. The systemic perspective encourages us to take full responsibility for our lives and truly “grow up”—not just in age, but emotionally, physically, and mentally.  When we act from arrogance, neediness, or exclusion , however, the flow of life becomes blocked, leadi